First of all, I hope you all enjoyed yesterday’s pregnancy update. 39 weeks – wow! If you didn’t get to see it, here is the link: https://beautybabyandme.wordpress.com/2015/11/26/39-weeks-pregnant-must-be-patient/
So, today is Black Friday! I can’t say I am too fussed about Black Friday itself, especially this year as I am not exactly up for being up for shopping (this happens when you’re the size of a Pygmy Hippo)! But I do love that it means we are fast approaching Christmas and surely this is the weekend I’m allowed to put up the Christmas tree….. or at least delegate to husband to put it up! After all I’m supposed to be taking it easy….. (at least that’s what I hear but seeing as nesting is in full force and floors are being manically scrubbed I’m not sure I’m very good at taking it easy).
Now usually for me Christmas means parties, shopping, an excuse to buy the newest sparkly eye-shadow from Dior and of course the odd glass of prosecco. I love Christmas; any excuse to put fairy lights up around the house. But I have never felt as excited about Christmas as much as I am this year. Although my baby will be a matter of weeks old, I feel as though this year will be so magical! I feel as though I cannot believe how lucky I will be to wake up on Christmas morning and have my little baby next to me ready to be held in my arms.
A lot of people I’ve said this to have said “Oh it will be far more magical next year when the baby has more understanding”. And in fairness they are right; he or she will have far more understanding next year, and beyond (oh god I can imagine the 4am wake up calls now). But to be quite honest, this Christmas is going to be magical for me and the husband. It might sound silly or even selfish, but we want it to magical for us as a little family. We took a fair while to fall pregnant so we were unbelievably grateful when we got our positive test (or ten – I did quite a few just to be sure, as us women tend to do). So when we found out he or she would be due in the festive season it was like the cherry on the cake. We are both huge fans of Christmas and family is massively important to us both. So to have the two combined and it being about our little family is like a dream come true.
Of course we plan to spend Christmas day with family and other days visiting friends and introducing our baby to people. But one of the things we planned quite some time ago, and are really excited about, is having our very own Christmas Day just the three of us in our house, albeit this will be a few days after actual Christmas Day. It may sound daft, back to the whole baby not understanding a thing beyond my boobs (!) at such a young age, but we really wanted to have a proper Christmas day together as a family. I’ve even said I’d like us to have a Christmas dinner together – any excuse for a roast.
It is quite hard trying to explain to people why this is so important to me but it really is. It is always important to have time together, the three of you, bonding when your first baby is born. Christmas is a busy time of year as it is and ours will be even more so this year. So I think having a day tucked up together, as a family, will be so calming and relaxing, not just for me and my husband but for the baby too. Babies can become very overstimulated with constantly being passed from person to person and at this crucial young age, it’s more important that baby is getting used to me and his or her dad. Of course some people don’t understand this, or think it is a lot of nonsense, but one thing I’ve learnt during pregnancy is to go with your gut instinct and if you feel the need for a day hibernating away with your new baby and other half then go for it! It’s also an opportunity for us to take stock of what a huge life changing event has taken place; I can imagine that our first week or two of being mummy and daddy will be a whirlwind of huge excitement, being proud as punch parents introducing our baby to everyone, and then of course there is Christmas on top of that. Bearing in mind that with all this combined with the less desirable side of parenthood (sleep deprivation, me trying to master breastfeeding etc), I think we will relish in a day or two just for us and about us, our own little family.
There are so many things to look forward to with a newborn baby; not just finding out if it’s a girl or a boy (although having said that we can’t wait to find out) and who it looks like, but all the cute things a new baby does that just melts your heart; when they squeeze your finger, when they stare at you fixated on your eyes (yes, baby is probably just trying to work out who the hell you are, but to you that’s the look of love), getting to give their gorgeous tiny feet kisses and seeing the look of adoration on your other halves face for both you and the baby! These are the moments I really can’t wait for this Christmas but most of all I can’t wait to see my husband with our child in his arms. He will be so proud and I can’t wait to see that. And when I think back to what I used to be excited about at Christmas, it’s nothing compared to the things I’m going to see, experience and feel this year. I couldn’t care less about presents, sparkly eye-shadow or a new outfit for Christmas day. I am going to be one seriously happy mumma with my gorgeous baby, a ridiculously happy husband and a lot of love in my heart, even if I am shattered, sleep deprived and have sore nipples! And I can’t wait.